Love Needs No “Should”

When someone loves you, they don’t need to be guilt-tripped into doing things for you. You don’t need a “should” with “if you love me” behind it. To love someone is to be considerate of them—you think of them and adjust yourself accordingly.

The word “should” is used when there is fear. Fear of being abandoned or abused, fear of being unloved or disliked. And where there is fear, there is not love.

If it seems like love has a high standard and as if very little is love, that’s an accurate perception. Humans have trouble with love as a concept or action. We have trouble trusting that there is love, that it’s for everyone, that we don’t have to earn it or protect it from being taken from us.

We simply cannot understand how we could be loved without possession.

It’s a lot easier than we think it is, but it helps if you know this: you don’t need to understand love. You don’t need to explain love. You can’t in fact really understand it that way, as something you could reason out.

It simply is. You don’t have to “I should”. You are loved whether you do something or not. You are loved whether you recognize it or not. The divine does not love grudgingly, or only under certain conditions.

The more you recognize that love, the less anyone needs to prompt you with obligation.

I am under no obligations.