Communication and Self-Love

I should have said this on Friday’s podcast—forgive me, I’m dead ass tired by Friday with my schedule. Friday night, I’m usually not good for much.

Good, deep, intimate communication is related to self love like this: If you have self-love, you ain’t got shit to prove in a conversation.

You can sit with someone, fully there with them, because you ain’t got shit to prove to them. There’s nothing preoccupying your attention. You don’t have to litter the conversation with your own insecurity, you don’t need anything from them, you can just be there.

You can’t have any kind of consistent, intimate connection with someone without self love, because you will try to shoehorn your insecurity into it and it will break the relationship.

I am pessimistic on the topic of communication, because most people do not love themselves or confuse gratification with self love, which is a separate topic. You don’t love yourself if all you do is what feels good (which includes, for people who don’t love themselves, a lot of seeking approval, which litters up the space in their heads and relationships.)

I’m generally happy if someone receives a small percentage of what I’m trying to tell them. And hell, most people just want to be heard, so it typically doesn’t matter if I talk at all.

There. I said it. I should have said it Friday.